Thoughts and Feelings

It's normal to feel attracted to both girls and boys when you're growing up.

During puberty, you have lots of emotions and sexual feelings. It's normal for girls to think about girls in a sexual way, and for boys to think about boys in a sexual way.

Some people realise they prefer people of the opposite sex, while others feel they prefer people of the same sex. Some people realise they are gay, lesbian or bisexual at an early age, while others may not know until later in life.

You do not choose your sexuality, it chooses you. Nobody knows what makes people gay, lesbian, bisexual or trans. Whatever your sexuality, you deserve to be with someone you love.

It can help to talk to other people who are going through the same thing. Find out if there's a young men's or women's group in your area for lesbian, gay or bisexual people.

These groups might be advertised at GP surgeries, sexual health or contraceptive clinics, pharmacies or youth groups.

You can also speak to your school link nurse for support and advice at your monthly high school drop-in.


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Useful links:

Am I Gay, Lesbian or Bisexual (NHS)

High School Drop In

Sexuality (Childline)

Sexuality and Mental Health (Young Minds)

Young People's LGBTQ+ Support (The Proud Trust)

Glossary of Terms (

LGBT+ Anti-violence Charity (


Useful resources:

LGBTQ+ Youth Services in Cheshire West and Chester (The Proud Trust) - pdf